Speaking the Right Word at the Right Time

A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver. (Proverbs 25:11)

The wisest, most mature, and most effective people are those who capture a moment by saying the right thing in the right way. Quite often, their statements seem to come from out of the blue because the tone of voice and the actual words speak a very different message from what most people expect. Instead of returning anger for anger and backing people into a corner, they calmly speak truth and give options. Instead of being annoyed by a boring person and walking away, they engage in deeper conversation. Instead of using a person’s fears to control him or her, they soothe fear by speaking words of hope.

Researchers tell us that communication is largely nonverbal. Only 7 percent of the impact is in actual words. Facial expressions, gestures, and the tone of voice make up the rest. Words can be “fitly spoken” only if we say them with authenticity, really meaning what we say, and letting our faces, hands, and tone of voice carry the message too.

Messages have incredible power. They can build or destroy, instill hope or take it away. Think about the people you will see today. Some of them are hurting, some are angry, and some have lost hope. What would it mean for you to communicate powerful, life-giving messages of faith, hope, and love to those people?

Do You Have a Life of Gratitude?

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Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings. – William Arthur Ward

Give praise to the LORD, proclaim his name; make known among the nations what he has done. (1 Chronicles 16:8) Continue reading “Do You Have a Life of Gratitude?”

Effects of a Right Attitude

thankful_gratitudeSome find it hard to say “thank you.” A farmer was sitting on the porch with his wife. He was beginning to realize how much she meant to him. It was about time—for they’d lived together forty-two years, and she had been such a help. She had shared the joys and the hardships of their marriage. She had worked hard and loved him unconditionally. One day as they sat together, he said, “Wife, you’ve been such a wonderful woman that there are times I can hardly keep from telling you.”

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How Are You In The Decision Making Process?

Steve lived in a large house in a pleasant suburb. It was a great place to raise his family of five, but his children have long since married and moved on. 15 years ago, Steve’s business failed, and although it would have made financial and practical sense for Steve and his wife to downsize, they loved their home and always put off the tough decision. Continue reading “How Are You In The Decision Making Process?”

Need Inspiration? Look To The Ant

ants-carry-weightA great Proverbs bible study is found in chapter 6 verses 6-11. It reads as follows:

You lazy fool, look at an ant. Watch it closely; let it teach you a thing or two. Nobody has to tell it what to do. All summer it stores up food; at harvest it stockpiles provisions. So how long are you going to laze around doing nothing? How long before you get out of bed? A nap here, a nap there, a day off here, a day off there, sit back, take it easy—do you know what comes next? Just this: You can look forward to a dirt-poor life, poverty your permanent house guest!

Everybody should study ants and their philosophy—it’s simple, but it’s powerful! When was the last time you saw ants reach an obstacle and give up with their heads down and head back to the ant hole to relax? Never.  Continue reading “Need Inspiration? Look To The Ant”

4 Ways To Grow Your Business and Your Self Image

grow-business-grow-selfIf you are not comfortable with yourself, you cannot be comfortable with others! If you do not believe in yourself, you will sabotage relationships.

John Maxwell teaches in “The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership” a concept called the Law of the Lid. It simply states, “Leadership ability determines a person’s level of effectiveness.” Here is what that means: no matter how hard you work, or how big you dream, you can only go so far professionally if you are a poor leader, or if you have a poor self-image. Continue reading “4 Ways To Grow Your Business and Your Self Image”

America: The Land Of Opportunity Or Entitlement?

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Will the United States be an Entitlement Society or an Opportunity Society? It’s not a new question. It’s roughly the same question Americans have been asked for decades.

Let’s begin with definitions:

OPPORTUNITY: a favorable juncture of circumstances; a good chance for advancement or progress.

ENTITLEMENT: the condition of having a right to have, do, or get something; the feeling or belief that you deserve to be given something (such as special privileges); a type of financial help provided by the government for members of a particular group.

What made America great? There are many factors to our greatness, but no one can deny the driving force of our greatness is the slogan: “America, the Land of Opportunity!” I mean, think about it, why do millions of people from other countries around the world risk everything, even their lives to get to America? Opportunity!

Since the Depression, Americans have generally had to choose between a political leader whose goal was to expand government (Entitlement), or one who wants to strengthen the private sector (Opportunity).

In an Entitlement Society, the government plays the role of a policeman who uses his power to ensure economic equality.Think of the policies during the 1930’s that prolonged rather than ended the Depression. Think of the War on Poverty, which never halted the poverty cycle. Think of the current president’s campaign theme about fairness, which he’s called “the defining issue of our time.”

An Entitlement Society requires wealth distribution — which requires government force. While hailed on the left as a panacea, a remedy for all difficulties, redistribution is a drain on an economy because it weakens a society’s motivation to work, invest and innovate. It moves capital from the private sector, where it would otherwise stimulate economic expansion, to the public sector, where money is spent so inefficiently that government spending is actually a drag on growth.

If a recent Gallup poll is to be believed, Americans aren’t that interested in reducing “the income and wealth gap between rich and poor.” Only 46% say that it’s “extremely” or “very” important that government should follow an equality agenda. At the same time, 82% say economic growth is either “extremely” or “very” important. More than half (52%) say that a wealth gap is an “acceptable part” of the economic system. Only 45% say it isn’t.

The growth that has created Western prosperity, the growth that 82% say is “extremely” or “very” important, is available nowhere else but in an Opportunity Society.

Only in open economies do shop owners, managers, workers and entrepreneurs have the incentive to create more wealth. On the other side is the Entitlement Society, in which the state guarantees that some or all of that wealth is divided among others who are considered more “entitled” to the wealth than the creators. In an Opportunity Society, however, creators keep what they produce, which is an incentive to produce more.

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Today, America’s economic system is mixed. It’s neither a full Entitlement Society nor a complete Opportunity Society. But we’ve moved hard toward a predominantly Entitlement Societyand ignored constitutional limits in doing so — where the special interests that have captured the government are the beneficiaries at the expense of the productive.

This is unsustainable. Greece, where the entitlement mentality has caused a fiscal collapse of the government and an economic breakdown, proves that handouts and state expansion can’t go on forever. Sweden, thought of by many on the left as having the right mix of welfare-state socialism and capitalism, saw this problem coming to its country years ago and quietly reversed its path.

Will America be smart enough to make the same adjustment?

Are You Experiencing Freedom?

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Throughout this day, Americans everywhere will celebrate freedom, as well we should. It’s one of the defining principles of our nation! Yet one might ask, Of those celebrating freedom, how many are truly experiencing it?

Certainly, many men and women are living what has been called the “American dream.” They enjoy well-paying careers, wonderful homes, and interesting hobbies. But meanwhile, their “pursuit of happiness” has yet to be satisfied. The reason is that lots of people remain prisoners, internally and externally, despite their apparent success. They are bound to jobs, anxiety, and depression, or a fear of losing what they’ve worked hard to possess. However liberating circumstances may seem externally, we eventually learn that freedom must be realized within. But how?

The answer is Jesus Christ. Isaiah 61:1 prophesied a key aspect of Jesus’ ministry, which continues to this day: He has come to heal the brokenhearted and set captives free. When we trust Him as Savior, the chains holding us back from joy are broken. We are liberated from lies that have been programmed in our minds from an early age, and we begin to see things from God’s point of view. Then we discover that our needs, desires, and overall well-being rest securely in the arms of our heavenly Father.

Are you feeling the weight of anxiety or anger? Look to Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). And remember the promise of 2 Corinthians 6:2 “Now is the day of salvation” (NIV). The day you trust in Christ is the day He delivers you from fear and bondage. The day you trust Christ is the day you begin experiencing freedom!  Need help praying? Click here to contact me!

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Lessons A Father Must Teach His Children

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The first 10 chapters of the Book of Proverbs give us some insight to what fathers need to teach their children; all of which are part of spiritual wisdom.

1. Teach your children to fear God. 

Proverbs 1:7  The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge. Proverbs 9:10  The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.

Fear is not cringing in horror, it’s a respect for God’s authority and Holiness.

2. Teach your children to guard their thinking; to fill their minds with pure thoughts.

Proverbs 3:3 Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.

Take love, loyalty, faithfulness, reliability, truth, and bind them around your neck and write them on the tablet of your heart. Heart used here is a reference to the mind, and tablet is a reference to the stones the commandments were written on. So, chisel them in the stone of your mind.

3. Teach your children to obey their parents.

All through this entire section there are several statements about “hearing, and listening to his father’s instruction.” We also have the commandment to Exodus 20:12; Ephesians 6:2, “Honor thy father and mother.”

A child needs to learn how to submit to our authority, so that we may teach them the wisdom of God, in turn submitting to His authority.

4. Teach your children to select his friends carefully. 

Proverbs 1:10 My son, if sinners entice you, do not give in to them.

1 Corinthians 15:33 Be not deceived, bad company corrupts good morals. 

We all know about peer pressure.  It can make an otherwise good kid make a mistake they he may pay for with their life.  If you want to be everybody’s buddy, you’re headed for trouble.  It’s better to have one good friend that knows you very well, like a brother.

5. Teach your children to control his bodily desires.

Young teens start to develop passions that can lead them down the wrong path.

Proverbs 2:16  It will save you also from the adulteress, from the wayward wife with her seductive words.

Proverbs 5:3  For the lips of an adulteress drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil.

I know this is speaking from the point of view of the woman seducing the man, but if he is fearing God, guarding his mind, and staying away from peer pressure, he won’t get caught in certain situations. Fathers teach teach your children to stay away from sexual immorality and premarital sex.  Marriage is a gift from God, to do these things before you’re married disrespects God and your future spouse.

6. Teach your children to love their spouse and enjoy being married. 

Proverbs 5:18 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.

This follows up on the last one.  If you don’t have respect for your spouse before you’re married, you won’t afterwards. A good way to teach this is by the way you treat your wife and by the things you say.  A wife is given to him by God to be his best friend and companion.

Ephesians 5:25  Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. 

7. Teach your children to watch what they say. 

Proverbs 4:24 Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips.

Your children need to speak the truth. Don’t say hateful things. Don’t gossip.

Proverbs 10:11 The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life.

Proverbs 10:13  Wisdom is found on the lips of the discerning.

When words come out of your mouth, you can’t take them back – example toothpaste!

8.Teach your children a proper work ethic.

Proverbs 6:10-11 A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest—and poverty will come on you like a robber, and our need like a bandit.

Hear this: You’re going to make yourself poor if you don’t want to work.

  • There are some out there that want everything but don’t want to work for it.
  • Don’t confuse can’t work with won’t work.
  • Have a good work ethic and you will be blessed.
9. Teach your children to manage their money.

Proverbs 3:9-10 Honor the Lord with your wealth, with the first fruits of all your crops; then your barns will be filled to overflowing, and your vats will brim over with new wine.

In other words, if you are generous with God, He will be generous with you. You are given money as a steward of God and you must use it at your discretion as the Lord leads.

10. Teach your children to love their neighbor.

Proverbs 3:27 Do not withhold good from those who deserve it, when it is in your power to act.

Matthew 22:39 Love your neighbor as yourself.

 

If a person is in need, and you have the power to fill that need, do it. Meeting the needs of others is part of honoring God. 

Okay let’s review: 

A father is a God fearing, hard working man, that loves his wife. He teaches his children to:

  • Fear God
  • Watch what they think
  • Obey their parents
  • Select their friends carefully
  • Control their bodily desires
  • Love their wife or husband
  • Watch what they say
  • Work
  • Manage their money
  • Love their neighbor

The Heart Of A Father

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I would like to take a few moments to share with you about your Father’s heart toward you. Yes, I am referring to your Heavenly Father.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” – John 3:16

That’s a lot of love. God loves us so much. The sins of this world have lead us to places we should not be going, doing things we should not be doing, and encouraging us to say things we should not be saying. But God’s love is so great that no matter what the sin, He sent His son to die for us so that we can be forgiven and made whole. Someone had to pay the price; blood had to be given as a sacrifice. God sent Jesus, the only sinless one, to be the payment for our sins. He did this by giving His life as a ransom for our sins.

We have seen great fathers in this world. The story of Dick Hoyt, the father who pushed, pulled, and carried his son, Rick through a triathlon is a great example. He swam 2.5 miles, cycled 125 miles through hot lava fields, and concluded by running 26.2 miles with his son. You see, he loved his handicapped son so much. His son’s dream was to be in this contest. The father’s heart was to meet that need for and with his son. No, they were not in first place or even second place, but they did finish just under the deadline. The father ran the race with the son.

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Our Heavenly Father is running the race with us. We are all in a race. If we have asked Jesus, God’s Son, into our hearts and to forgive us our sins, then we are pressing on to win the prize.

“I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3:14

God’s heart is so big for us. His love is so awesome. He wants only what is best for us. Our Father in heaven has a very big heart for us. He cares, wants us to be healed, cleansed from our sins, in right relationship with Him and others around us, and on our way to heaven. He has a wonderful place for us to go.